After a long time trying to please people you get to a point where you realise that it takes too much out of you to please people. In all of this you are losing time and opportunity to do great things for yourself.
1. Understand why. As people, we are social animals. Our ancestors lived & died by the tribe – our identity is strongly tied to family and communities and this is why you want approval so bad. Unfortunately, today it causes us to be miserable.
2. Be self-aware. Always reflect on how situations or events make you feel. This won’t happen overnight. Start with small scenarios. Keep at it. You’ll catch yourself thinking things that aren’t productive. This turns EVERYTHING into a learning experience.
3. Find your purpose Always ask WHY you’re doing something – is it what you want or because you think you should? Go after what sparks your fire right now. You’ll give it 100% instead of half assing someone else’s dream When you find it, you won’t even consider what other people think – you’re too busy building something great. A purpose is more powerful than any drug or stimulant. Find it, and when you do…
4. Focus on the process See your pursuits to the end. It doesn’t matter how small it is. Set a goal. Commit to it. See it through. (regardless of the outcome) Giving up crowds your mind with self-doubt. Start small. Build momentum. Soon you’ll be unstoppable.
5. It’s You vs You. Compare yourself to… – Yesterday’s you – Last year’s you – Last decade’s you No one else matters. There’s ALWAYS someone ahead of you and someone behind you. Comparing yourself to them is a fast track to complacency or defeat.
6. You’ll never please everyone. Regardless of what you do…haters gonna hate. So why not please yourself instead of pleasing others and disappointing yourself? Besides…
7. Judgments from others are more about them than they are about you. They don’t feel that way about you – they feel that way about themselves. Similarly…if you’re nervous about someone’s opinion… Look inward – it might be an indicator of what you know you need to do.
8. Stop wishing others were different If you swapped situations with that person you disagree with…there’s a good chance you’d be exactly like they are. This realization allows you to drop resistance to how other people are. 90% of your day is wasted wishing things were different. STOP. Things are how they are….What’re you gonna do about it?
9. Take risks high risk = high reward No risk = 1% return by investing in treasury bonds Why? So you can retire after your life passed you by??? Start Taking Risks There is SO MUCH UPSIDE!
10. Take responsibility Nothing happens to you. It happens and you choose how to respond. Take responsibility for your everything in your life. This might sound scary at first – but soon you realize you control your own destiny.
11. No one knows what the hell they’re doing. The people whose opinion you’re worried about are thinking THE SAME DAMN THING ABOUT YOU! Everyone’s got shit – we’re all trying to figure it out. There’s no gold standard approval – stop trying to get one.
12. Stop being selfish. The world needs more of YOU….not a half-ass version of someone else. “But what if they don’t like me?” Simple. Don’t hang out with them – I’m telling you, you don’t need their approval. Be authentically yourself.
13. Ignore praise What? Ignore the compliments. It will never be enough. If you live for praise, you’ll die by criticism. You need to dismiss both because the negatives hit WAY harder than the positives.
I did really appreciate your words of wisdom, motivation and inspiration thanks Mr rewo
High risk=High reward I got u grootman lama jita
Wish I could have come across your posts earlier in my prime years… I could have been further than where I am at right now…. Now I wish I can meet you in person to inspire me more….